Chances are that you are friends with someone who regularly abuses their partner, and you don't even know it. Anybody can choose to become abusive, and, sadly, anybody can become a victim. Here are a few things to look for in an abuser:
  • is selfish and/or self-centered
  • blames others for his actions and refuses to accept responsibility for his mistakes
  • pushes for quick commitment (wants to be engaged after one date)
  • is consistently jealous (but calls it "true love") and isolates the victim
  • has sudden, frequent mood swings with extreme highs and lows
  • acts cocky and "macho," brags about his strength, skill, or weapons
  • always has to be right and never compromises

  1. Recognize that YOU have a problem.
  2. Get help.
  3. Believe that you can change your bad behaviors.
  4. Pray for guidance.
  5. Accept the consequences of your bad behaviors.
  6. Don't lose hope-keep trying!

© 2003, Sarah Southerland